Starting first grade is a serious challenge not only for the child but for the entire family. Aigerim Dauletkyzy, a child psychologist at the National Scientific and Practical Institute for Child Well-being 'Orken', spoke about how to transition a child to a school routine, eliminate the fear of mistakes, and teach them to protect their boundaries in a new environment. This was reported by Qazaqyia.kz citing Kursiv Media.
'A psychologically ready child is not one who reads faster than everyone else or solves complex problems. It is a child who is confident, knows how to communicate, understands that their feelings matter, is not afraid to make mistakes, and feels supported by adults,' the specialist notes.
According to Dauletkyzy, first and foremost, it is necessary to create a positive and attractive image of school for the child.
'Tell them about school as a place where they can learn new things, make friends, and discover interesting topics. Avoid intimidation and comparisons with other children. Support the child's self-confidence. A confident and calm child adapts more easily to new conditions. Say often: "You will definitely succeed," "We believe in you," "If something goes wrong, we will figure it out together,"' she explains.
Additionally, the psychologist advises developing independence in the child. It helps them feel calmer and more confident at school.
According to the specialist, before the school year begins, the child should be able to:
Dauletkyzy emphasized that parents should explain to the child how to make friends with classmates, how to address the teacher politely, and that it is okay to ask for help, negotiate, and calmly resolve minor conflicts.
'It is necessary to develop emotional intelligence in the child. Help them understand their feelings: "I am happy," "I am sad," "I am worried," "I am angry," and so on should be verbalized. When a child can talk about their emotions, it is easier for them to cope with anxiety,' she explained.
She also advises discussing the child's fears and worries. Avoid phrases like 'Don't be afraid,' 'It's nothing,' 'Everyone goes to first grade eventually.' Replace them with questions: 'Are you worried about something?', 'What is bothering you?', 'How can I help?'
According to the specialist, a calm conversation helps reduce anxiety in children.
'Explain to the child that no one has the right to hurt them, that they should not tolerate mockery or threats, and that they can always turn to a teacher or parents for support. Also say that saying a firm "No!" in an unpleasant situation is normal,' she says.
The psychologist explains that the child must be confident that adults are always ready to help and protect them.
She also advises gradually transitioning to a school routine. That is, two to three weeks before September 1:
This will help the body adapt more easily to the school schedule.
Furthermore, it is very important to maintain the child's interest in learning. To do this, read books with them, watch family-friendly films, discuss what was read and seen, play board games, and take walks together to explore the world.
The main goal is to preserve the child's natural healthy curiosity, not to force them to do anything, the psychologist believes.
'Foster a healthy attitude toward mistakes. Explain to the child that mistakes are a natural part of learning and life in general. It is important to convey that people learn everything gradually, not instantly. The child should not be afraid to answer in class or try something new,' she emphasized.
Earlier, the Ministry of Health warned that a school backpack with textbooks should not weigh more than 10% of the child's body weight.